Mythbuster: What Mindfulness is Not

We're introducing a new series - Mindfulness Mythbusters - to go along with Tangled Thoughts and Frazzled Feelings.  Newcomers to the practice of mindfulness have many terrific questions about what is supposed to happen in practice and, in this series, we will try to address some of them - without giving away any secrets of [...]

Compassion or “idiot” compassion?

Metta Refuge

Don’t Misinterpret!

Pema Chodron

Don’t impose the wrong notion of what harmony is, what compassion is, what patience is, what generosity is. Don’t misinterpret what these things really are. There is compassion and there is idiot compassion; there is patience and there is idiot patience; there is generosity and there is idiot generosity.

For example, trying to smooth everything out to avoid confrontation, not to rock the boat, is not what’s meant by compassion or patience. It’s what is meant by control. Then you are not trying to step into unknown territory, to find yourself more naked with less protection and therefore more in contact with reality. Instead, you use the idiot forms of compassion and so forth just to get ground.

When you open the door and invite in all sentient beings as your guests, you have to drop your agenda. Many different people come in. Just when you…

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Opening to Life – Book Review of Leaves Falling Gently by Susan Bauer-Wu

Leaves Falling Gently -Living fully with serious & life-limiting illness through mindfulness, compassion, & connectedness by Susan Bauer-Wu is a kind and inviting little book that makes facing our chronic or acute life-threatening illness easier to face.  Bauer-Wu, an associate professor of nursing at Emory University, researches the effects of chronic stress from debilitating illness [...]